Sex toys aren’t the taboo kind of subject they used to be.
As times change, society and attitudes change. As people, we all have goals we want to achieve and dreams to fulfil.
It is thought as many as 87% of women have never achieved an orgasm during penetrative sex, but as many as 7% regularly achieve multiple orgasms! Man women themselves don’t know what they like and how their bodies function. It’s only by spending time by ourselves, getting to know how we like to be touched, where, how hard or soft – not just genitally, all over our bodies. If we don’t know what feels good, how can we ask our partner to do it?
Toys aren’t just for the 16 – 30s either – many older couple use toys as love-making enhancers. As you age, you lose some feeling, and it’s slightly more difficult to get aroused, so a simple toy can spice it up, even for the older generations.
Vibrators are a good way to experiment with ourselves, both male and female. Some have variable speeds and pulses, some are waterproof, disguised as something else, stunning colours, different shapes, materials and textures – something to suit everyone!
Vibrators can be used on your nipples, inner thighs, tummy, inner elbows, back of your neck, behind your knees, clitoris, perineum (the bit of skin between your vagina or scrotum and anus), scrotum, lower back…..it’s up to you! Not just genitals – anywhere tingly!
Stimulating your whole body is a big part of reaching sexual pleasure. The more relaxed and turned on you are, the more your genitals swell and the more receptive you become to stimulation. Yes, a quickie is good, but long foreplay session concentrating on every tingly spot on you and your partners bodies can’t be beaten!
For men, it’s pretty simple to climax! We all know the routine. For women, it’s a bit more complicated!
Here is a brief overview of what happens during a female orgasm:
· Stimulation of clitoris
· Tension build-up is caused within pelvis
· Tension is finally released and orgasm is experienced
· Series of involuntary (yet pleasurable) muscle contractions sweep through body
· Contractions are felt in the vagina, uterus, and/or rectum
Unlike with the male orgasm, women have the ability to feel many different types of climaxes. These climaxes are dependent on the types of stimuli used, and whether the orgasm is clitoral or vaginal.
So, before you start poking and prodding in all the wrong places, take the time to learn a bit more about yourself!
There are so many nerve endings in your body, but stimulating them in the right way is different for each individual person. Rubbing, stroking, pressing, flicking, licking, sucking – it’s your call! Slow, fast, rhythmic, vigorous…..whatever suits! Until you know, chances are your partner won’t get it right. Spending time with just your fingers, or a vibe, some sexy music, moody lighting and your own imagination can work wonders!
There’s a vibe to suit everyone! Discreet ‘Luscious Lippy’, for a business woman’s handbag for a buzz on the go. A FunFactory mini Corser for fun with your partner, or on your own. A water bunny with clit stimulator for fun in the bath or a wrist rocket for on-the-spot multi-speed fun!
Pelvic Floor is something which often gets talked about regarding sex. Your pelvic floor or kegel muscles are easy enough to find. When you have a wee, stop mid-flow – the muscles you use to do it are your pelvic floor muscles. Exercising these muscles helps to make your vaginal walls tighter and help to prevent or improve incontinence. When you’re pregnant, it is important to improve your pelvic floor muscles to help with the delivery. After birth, it is important to work the muscles to regain your pelvic strength, regain full continence and get you ‘innards’ back into shape.
Try our SmartBalls or Energie and see how you can improve yourself.
Using toys as a couple doesn’t just mean sing vibes. How about a Dinky Ring? A jelly, stretchy cock ring to help keep him erect. The ring has little ridges to pleasure your bits, while a waterproof mini bullet inserted into the bottom of the ring makes the whole thing tremble!
Cock rings are great for both of you, as are sleeves – a whole new texture to the old chap!
We are offering an email advice service – we’re here to answer any questions about toys, relationship or anything sex-related.
Just email us on sales@sexi-vibes.co.uk and put Sexi Advice in the subject box. We’ll be as discreet as possible and try to help you as much as we can.
